What to wear

For those not familiar with bar mitzvah style: At the morning service, it is appropriate to wear what might be called “Sunday best” or “special occasion” clothes. Tom and Isaac will be wearing suits, as most men will, but it’s also appropriate to wear sports coats or even button down shirts. For women, suits are also appropriate (either pants or skirts), as well as dresses or nice slacks. Our congregation is Reform, which translates to fairly liberal, but people will dress up some because it’s a bar mitzvah, and every year there seems to be fewer and fewer Birkenstock hold-outs.

What’s not appropriate? Wearing your soccer uniform, especially if you just finished your game and you’re all sweaty (seen–and smelled–that before). Or (and yes, we’ve seen this too) a short cutoff jeans mini skirt with a skimpy cotton cami and Ugg boots. Basically, keep in mind respectfulness, a sense of a special event, and the possibility that someone may take your picture afterwards for posterity!

If you’re not Jewish, don’t worry about wearing a kippah (skull cap) or tallit (prayer shawl)–it’s totally optional. Again, since this is a Reform congregation, it’s left to personal choice rather than any dictate.

For the evening party, Isaac wants everyone to feel comfortable. We’ve toyed with descriptors like “dressy casual” or “fancy camp” or “wine county chic” or “snazzy bar-b-que.”  Isaac will be wearing a short sleeve button down with khakis (though he’s lobbying for nice shorts), if that tells you anything.

For both day and evening, come with a layer or wrap.  Both the synagogue and the party site have great patios from which you’ll want to enjoy the view, and both can be a bit windy.

The wisdom of the Simpsons

The Simpsons television show is a family favorite; both Isaac and Anathea can quote from it extensively. It seems to include all things wise and wonderful–and even has something to say about bar mitzvah! Funny, Krusty the Clown doesn’t look Jewish! Here’s an article about the bar mitzvah episode and a link to a hip site that encourages the counting of the omer (an ancient tradition that thanks god for the fruits of the field) by associating the act with all things Simpson. The site also describes a number of Jewish references in the series. Who knew Isaac was studying every time he watched a Simpsons rerun!

Directions

WARNING: Online maps do not show the synagogue location correctly!

Congregation Shomrei Torah (ceremony and lunch): From Highway 101, take Highway 12 (just south of downtown Santa Rosa) towards Sonoma (east) until it comes to a stoplight. Turn right at the light (Farmers Lane). Turn right at second light (Bennett Valley Road). The synagogue is the first driveway on the left (2600 Bennett Valley Road).

IF YOU ARE STAYING AT THE HYATT OR IN RAILROAD SQUARE: The nearest on-ramp to the freeway is closed for repairs. From the front of the Hyatt, turn right on Third Street and go east. Continue on Third Street (you’ll go under 101) through downtown to Brookwood. Turn right. Continue until you go under HIghway 12. Turn left at Bennett Valley Road, and stay in the right lane. Go through the traffic light at Gordon Lane.  As you climb the hill, look for the synagogue driveway on the right.

Legends (dinner and dancing): From Highway 101, take Highway 12 towards Sonoma (east) until it comes to the light at Farmers Lane. Continue straight ahead (you’ll be on Hoen) to Yulupa. Turn right on Yulupa. Once you see the golf course on your left you’ll come to a light at the entrance to Daniel Galvin Park. Turn left. Past the driving range, Legends is the first building on the left.

Hotel update

The RSVP cards have started to arrive–how exciting! We’ve heard from at least one family that our block at the Hyatt is full.  Since reserving through the block saves you $100, we can add rooms if we know for sure you want them, but we have to move fast (remember, it’s high season!) since the hotel has said there are few rooms left. Please call or email us immediately if you want us to add rooms to the block.

Tree of Life

The invitations go into the mail today!

You may wonder why we used a tree as a symbol on them, rather than a more obvious choice like a Torah or a Jewish star.  For us, the tree has several meanings:

To become Bar Mitzvah, Isaac has learned to read from the Torah.  The Torah, the first five books of the bible, is often referred to as etz chayim, “a tree of life to them who hold fast to it.”  The wooden dowels that hold the parchment scroll are also called etz, or tree.

Obviously, trees figure strongly throughout the Torah, starting with the tree in the Garden of Eden.  This isn’t surprising, considering that the ancient Israelites, as a desert people, would have highly valued trees both for their fruit and their shade.

Trees are powerful symbols in and of themselves, and they feature in  common expressions.  It’s easy to find many meanings that are appropriate for Isaac’s bar mitzvah celebration, like the importance of our “family tree,” particularly in sharing this milestone in Isaac’s life, or the fact that Isaac is becoming as “strong as a tree.”

The specific tree image we chose for the invitation is an oak because it reflects the environment around us in Northern California.  We feel blessed to live among such beautiful surroundings–something we’re reminded of every day when we drive to the dentist through the apple orchards, or pass vineyards on our way to the chiropractor, or enjoy a vista of a hillside studded with oaks.

Finally, the image reminds us of our new synagogue itself, which is overlooked by a stunning oak tree.

Sebastopol strolling

Travel about eight miles west from Santa Rosa, on Highway 12, and you come to the town of Sebastopol. There’s a main drag, with funky boutiques, a good bookstore (Copperfields), and a few restaurants (try West County for a terrific meal!). While it lacks the charm of other Sonoma County towns like Healdsburg or Sonoma itself, it offers utterly delightful surprises. Our favorite: Florence Avenue, a few blocks west of Main Street. You drive through an unassuming neighborhood, then suddenly you’re on a street on which almost every house boasts a folk art junk sculpture by Patrick Amiot–Batman and a mermaid, a fireman and a surfer, a host of whacko characters (including the Mad Hatter) constructed out of odds and ends and painted bright colors. You’ll soon realize that you’ve seen other pieces by Amiot as you drove into town–a giant cow in a field, a gargantuan silver dog at the SPCA entrance. Definitely worth the detour to see! If you can’t make it during the busy bar mitzvah weekend, check out this Youtube video.

Mitzvah projects

Isaac’s class undertook to “do good well” this year, and every bar mitzvah and bat mitzvah child engaged in some kind of community or charity work. Not only did this involve doing a mitzvah (a good deed), but in tikkun olam (“repairing the world”) and tzeddakah (righteousness; charity). Want to learn more about Isaac’s projects? Here are some links:

Mirembe Kawomera (Delicious Peace). Isaac sold almost 500 bags of fair trade, organic, kosher coffee from a cooperative in Uganda that unites Jewish, Muslim and Christian farmers in building peace. In March, four of the farmers came to speak in Santa Rosa, including J.J. Keki, an Abayudayah Jew who began the cooperative by knocking on his neighbors’ doors. The Abayudayah are native Ugandans who have been practicing Judaism since 1919.  Fair trade prices have meant that the community now earns eight times as much as they once did from their crop, and their lives have improved significantly as a result. Isaac’s project has yielded both fair trade payments and additional profit sharing for the cooperative from Thanksgiving Coffee, a roaster near us that distributes the coffee, and he has raised an additional $1000 to contribute to community education projects through the organization, Kulanu (“all of us”), an organization dedicated to finding and assisting lost and dispersed remnants of the Jewish people.

Isaac continues to sell coffee to help the farmers; contact him if you’re interested in ordering some. It’s definitely delicious!

Land steward. Isaac has put in sufficient hours helping maintain our new synagogue’s landscape to earn the title “land steward.” Learn more about how volunteers helped made our congregation’s new home possible at the Shomrei Torah website.

Puppy petter. Isaac underwent training to help socialize and care for new puppies who will become companions and assistants to disabled people. The Assistance Dog Institute is an outgrowth of Canine Companions which provides service dogs to people all over the country–and began right here in Santa Rosa!

Elisha’s Pantry This is one of the projects of our synagogue’s Social Action Committee. Isaac has gone on several afternoons to lend a hand. Those coming to the Bar Mitzvah can help as well by bringing non-perishables to share; a collection basket will be near the sanctuary door.

Farm trails: beyond the vines

One of the great pleasures of living where we do is the ability to be “locavores” (people who eat only locally grown products). We try the best we can, and enjoy local farmers markets and our weekly CSA (Community Supported Agriculture) box delivery.

Isaac’s Bar Mitzvah weekend just happens to be the Weekend Along Farm Trails, two days of activities (10am-5pm) you might be able to catch between bar mitzvah events.

Wine Tasting 101

Here’s the easiest (and closest) wine tour through the Valley of the Moom:

Take Highway 12 east towards Sonoma. Your first stop will be in Kenwood, about 15 minutes outside of Santa Rosa, where Tom ran the Kenwood Foot Race 10K on the 4th of July (he took 14 minutes off his personal best–yeah Tom!). The race is “the oldest, most prestigious road race in Sonoma County, a 4th of July tradition for 37 years… follow[ing] scenic rural roads in the heart of the Wine Country…. a challenging loop with rolling hills.”

Our two favorite tasting experiences there are Kenwood Vineyards (the tasting, which always includes good table reds, is still in the barn like it has been for about 30 years!) and Chateau St. Jean (long known for its whites, and sporting a lovely garden, an expensive deli, and a nice shop). Chateau St. Jean is part of a number of wineries that were started in the 1970s by unlikely vintners who held day jobs as doctors and dentists, experienced success in various wine competitions, then sold to the highest corporate bidder.

Onward to Glen Ellen, to Benzinger Family Winery. Here, the kids can take a tram ride (in general, there’s not a whole lot for kids to do on wine tours!). Notable for the fact that the family still runs the place; some Benzinger offspring or in-law is probably pouring your taste of wine. And while the wine gets mixed reviews, Glen Ellen makes for an enjoyable stop–especially if you have time to go up to Jack London State Historic Park, and take an easy walk up to the ill-fated Wolf House (it burned to its stone skeleton just before moving day!). London wrote Call of the Wild and White Fang, and was known not only as a writer but as an adventurer and socialist. There’s a great little museum there, housed in “The House of Happy Walls,” where London’s widow lived after his death.

Near Glen Ellen, you’ll pass Beltane Ranch, where we got married, and also the home (look for the small white house with the large arched window) of the late M.F.K. Fisher, the food writer (a New York Times critic wrote, “Her food writing read like love stories”).

The full tour takes you on into Sonoma, where there are several wineries to choose from, including historic ones like Buena Vista and Sebastiani. Usually, it’s enough to just visit the town itself and its beautiful central square, complete with duck pond, play structures, and surrounding shops and food opportunities. Try Sonoma Cheese factory for lots and lots of free tastings (mostly variations of Sonoma Jack), or Basque Boulangerie (great breads, sandwiches and salads). Grab something to eat, then sit in the green and cool park. There are a couple of great ice cream stops as well, plus fine dining like The Girl in the Fig. Our favorite store: The Sign of the Bear kitchenware. You can also visit the Sonoma mission and look inside historic buildings.

Problem with any wine tour these days: most wineries now charge for limited tastings! You can share a glass, of course, or you can try to find lists online of who pours for free (there was recently such a list in one of the newspapers we read, and we’ll keep looking for it!). Let us know what you find and we’ll post it here.

Spa splendor

As you might imagine, given our location in the midst of one of the finest wine producing areas of the world, Santa Rosa and the surrounding area offers a full range of hedonistic delights. Perhaps on your trip you might sneak in a visit to one of our many spas! In our neighborhood, they come in a wide variety of styles: here are three suggestions to consider (all require reservations).

The Hyatt Vineyard Creek, where we’ve held a block of rooms, offers full in-house spa services. These read like a tasting menu, which includes Merlot Grapeseed Scrub, Chardonnay and Pomegranate Soak, and Lavender Body Butter Massage. We have no personal experience to report here, but the location is sure convenient.

If you’re willing to venture further afield, we can recommend our favorite, Osmosis, locate in west county (synonymous here with “laid back,” “left over hippie,” and definitely “hedonistic”). The drive out to Freestone alone, along Bodega Highway, is enough to relax you: rolling hills (the kind that inspired Christo to create “Running Fence”), contented cows, and, in the summer particularly, the first hints of ocean air. Osmosis is located in a converted Victorian house and surrounded by a wonderful, calming Japanese garden. If you indulge in the full treatment, you (this is best done two by two) start by being served a special enzyme tea while seated in a private room with a view out to the beautiful garden, then take a “bath” in a wooden tub “filled with a fragrant blend of finely ground cedar, rice bran, and plant enzymes imported from Japan. These ingredients heat naturally, by fermentation, creating biologically generated warmth that mimics the body’s natural metabolic process.”  In other words, it’s a lot like being buried up to the neck in a clean compost pile–but don’t let that turn you off!  You’ll feel heated from the inside out; you relax while looking out into another section of the garden (which you can walk in later); an attendant brings you cool water and gracefully wipes the sweat off your brow. Afterwards, you have to scrape and shower off all the bran and cedar bits; then you can have a massage. By the end, you won’t feel a bone in your body, your skin will feel totally refreshed, and you’ll be ready for the indulgences available at the Wild Flour Bread Bakery across the street–the most amazing bread, fresh out of the oven (and lots of free tastes!).

The classic spa indulgence is available over the hill in Calistoga. The name is an amalgam of “California” and “Saratoga,” which may give you a hint of how old a spa town this is (the first baths opened in the 1860s). This is the source of the ubiquitous “Calistoga water,” which was long held to have medicinal qualities. It’s an interesting small town: while catering to visitors, it still feels like a real town, since it serves a large portion of the workers who tend the vineyards throughout the Napa Valley. There are a number of places to have a mud bath; the practice is said to have originated with the Mayacamas Indians. The New York Times lists Indian Springs, Dr. Wilkinson’s Hot Springs Resort or Golden Haven. We haven’t been in years, since we have been wooed away by Osmosis, but we always loved the experience in the past.